As anyone living in the age of depressing divorce rates knows, a happy long-term couple is almost like a unicorn: If by some miracle you encounter it, you can't stop staring, and you have a feeling no one will ever believe you when you tell them you saw it. At some point a corner of your brain dares register the thought: Could this be one of those? To help you answer that question, you lucky thing, here's a completely unscientific list of 31 ways to know you're in the right relationship: 1. If you're afraid of commitment, best to work that out before you put yourself in a situation where it's hoped you'll eventually commit. Hide anything more significant than a surprise party from each other. Going through your significant other's email, phone, Facebook account, or journal strongly indicates that you don't trust the person you're with. If you're unwilling to introduce the person you're dating at appropriate junctures to the most important people in your life, that's usually a bright, flapping red flag. If you feel that your significant other is your inferior in any way you know matters to you in a mate -- morally, intellectually, socially, financially or professionally -- you're never going to respect him or her as much as you hope to be respected. Professional jealousy can be as poisonous to a relationship as constantly thinking he or she is flirting with your best friend. The same things you're not supposed to talk about on a blind date -- religion, money, politics, kids -- are things you should discuss with someone you're serious about.
Sometimes you’ve been in one too long to realize it’s not right.We label it as ‘complicated’ or we find ourselves dating the same type of men who are not good for us instead of admitting that it’s just not working.After repeating our patterns we don’t know what a normal, healthy relationship is.You know which conversations you shouldn't be having at brunch with friends. Depend on each other for things no one can or should supply. If you're where you need to be, the following thoughts don't cross your mind: "Maybe he'll dump me," or "If my ex moves back from Mongolia, everything could change." 15. You know the cliche: The person worth your tears won't make you cry. If you're looking to your significant other to resolve your emotional issues, make you more responsible/successful/adult, support you financially, improve your social standing, expand your group of friends, provide you with the family you never had, or make your parents finally accept you, it's possible you shouldn't be in a relationship at all, or at least not yet. Begrudge each other time with your respective friends.